We sat at the dinner table long after dinner
was served. In between bites of coffee
cake, my grandma and grandpa reminisced on years past. When and where they met, their wedding day, all the cities they called home and how my
grandpa had my grandma “all night long” after the first date.
Bless his heart as my grandma yelled out "BOB YOU DID NOT!" along with a sweet slug to the shoulder and a roll of the eyes. I laughed uncontrollably and my mom buried her face in her hands, shaking it left to right. I love it.
They had $30 to their name when they were married and "date night" meant walking the streets of Minneapolis watching the
TVs in store front windows. No concerts or fancy dinners, just the two of
them enjoying each other’s presence. Because really, do we need anything else?
I leaned back in my chair and soaked in what was happening
around me. The look in their eyes and the
smile on their faces, the way my grandpa would rub my grandmas back and
hold her hand. Then it hit me, so hard in fact that I went to the bedroom and pulled a Target
receipt from the bottom of my purse to scribble down the outline of this
very post.
If having a love like theirs
means waiting, put me on the list.
If it means they will accept the fact that
the temperature in my car has to be an even number, perfect. If they will support my
habit of changing my fingernail color weekly, how I won’t watch hockey without a
beer to compliment it, and how every Sunday morning should begin with church, then put my name on the waiting list. Carrie...with a C.
There are many things I rush but being with the
person that will better me is not one of them. I see
too many relationships that are forced and unrealistic
because they think there is an unspoken rule in society that you must be married by 23 and if not, you better get your profile on Match.com going or start your cat, over-sized knit sweater and porcelain doll collection. To these people - I want to physically shake
you.
If you are single, listen up. I am a firm believer that you are ridin’ solo
for a reason….or maybe three. Take it as
a hint and study your life. Are you
ready to love someone or are there things about you that you want to work on
first? Are you done doing whatever you
want, when you want, with who you want?
If living a life of true and authentic love like my
grandparents means I will be on the waiting list for 6 months, a year, or even
5 years, then hand me the buzzer and let me do my single-girl thing.
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